Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Grandma Delsa, Hope for the Future, Going Green

My grandma Delsa passed away last Friday. She was actually my step-grandma, but that didn't matter - to me she was always my grandma. I remember spending Christmas Eve with her and my grandpa, summer lemonade in her front yard, birthday gifts, the way she always looked so beautiful, the candy jar in their home, and how excited she would get when we went to visit. 

The last ten years or so have been difficult for everyone as my grandpa and her have needed to move into a facility that offered more care. They both have dementia. With this, and my getting older and more observant, I came to realize the extreme negative feelings of her children in regards to my grandpa and my family. These feelings have led them to some pretty extreme actions - including legal battles with my mom, and fighting to keep my grandma in a different facility from her husband (this was taken so far as to suddenly move her across town one day without notifying anyone - imagine the distress my grandpa felt when suddenly his wife was gone and no one could tell him where she was or if she was coming back). 

Despite all this, she was still my grandma and I was looking forward to attending her funeral this week and remembering her life. Alas, it is not to be. Our family just found out that her family decided against having any sort of funeral or memorial service for her. In fact, they have already buried her. How sad that her own children and grandchildren weren't willing to make a small sacrifice in order to honor her life and allow others who loved her the same opportunity.

On another note, did you listen to Senator Obama's speech tonight after the election? Wasn't it empowering? I feel so much hope for the future of this great country and am excited to be alive during such an exciting time in our history. 

I've made the decision to switch to cloth diapers. This is something I have been wanting to do since before Antalya was born. I am excited to finally be giving it a chance. I hope it is everything good that I think it will be. Tonight I ordered my first set of Fuzzi Bunz. They should be here in a few days. I'm sure you will be hearing more about it.


Laura said...

So sorry about your Grandma. Cloth diapers, I used them several children years ago. For months I've been thinking of going back to them, they are so much better now. Looking forward to hearing how you like them.

Sonja said...

What a heartbreaking experience...I'm so sorry that you didn't get to say goodbye to your grandma the way you were hoping to.

I've always thought Obama was a good speaker. ;)

Good luck with the diapers!

Layla said...

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. I hope that you and your family will have the comfort that the spirit can only give.

I too felt inspired and am excited to be alive in this great time of our history!

Michelle said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma's passing; and what's even more sad is her side of the family not having a funeral or memorial service to allow others to have their final goodbyes. I'm sorry it turned out that way.

Hupp Family said...

I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmother. We are so blessed to have the gospel in our lives and to know that we will all see one another again.

I always try to do things that are better for the environment. (Joe makes funn of me all the time) We have our energy saving bulbs, Lo-E windows, wrapped heater,ect... I even provide my own bags when I go grocery shopping. However, I'm not brave enough to go green on the diapers. My hat is off to you. I think that is awesome. Let me know how it goes. Maybe you'll inspire me!

Strawberry Girl said...

Hi Sunny,

So sorry to hear about your Grandma. The family battle sounds just awful. I am going green as much as I can, I try to do a scrap pile, and I am looking at ways to avoid using things that I will have to throw away. I too am interested in the cloth diapers you mentioned. Tell me how they work for you. As for Obama, I like him and think he is a great speaker. But I am worried about all of the socialism creeping into our government and don't like the way things are going. Of course Bush is pushing a lot of it and I pray he won't get his way on drilling in Utah. Condolences again for you Grandmothers death.